While briskly walking through the produce section at my local grocery store, I briefly glanced at the non-organic produce and gave it a look of disdain. When out of the corner of my third eye I saw a salad head shrinking away. It stopped me in my tracks and I looked at the salad head more closely and discovered to my utter horror that it felt afraid of me and deeply judged.
It’s so freeing for me to be able to write about my experiences authentically. I was definitely hesitant publishing this post but I followed my wild heart and feel enriched by your comment ❤️
Yes Katja I love the lettuce story. I agree also in not enabling toxicity, however I do feel in most cases people responsible have been poisoned themselves. The culture is broken and traumatizes in ways that perpetuate that toxicity . Love , kindness, and compassion are possible and can be present without enabling. For an empath though caution first as even these gestures open possible vulnerability. Thanks for expressing gratitude to all the vegetables 🥕 😊
Thank you so much for your comment! Jon, I so appreciate that you are sharing your view here.
I was very hesitant about publishing this post. Especially the part about toxic people. I knew that I would possibly not be understood. Since the post wasn’t specifically about toxic people, I did’t have the space to explain in detail what toxicity means for me. I grew up with a narcissistic father and know from my own experience that love and kindness and compassion are enabling a person with a narcissistic personality disorder. As an empath this was a very difficult step to accept on my healing journey. Crystal clear boundaries are vital around these kinds of toxic people. This is still deeply misunderstood for most people especially those who haven’t made their own personal experiences with these kinds of narcissists.
I agree with you that around most wounded people love and kindness and compassion are possible and can be present. And to me most wounded people don’t have what I would call toxic behavior.
Thanks Katja and I get it. Sometimes the only way to deal with a narcissist is to disengage. Sometimes that requires behavior that is "unkind" . Maybe I would turn that last sentence around ...that most people who have toxic behavior are wounded. I think we are on the same page here. I loved your post
I love that you illustrated how easily judgment can cloud our thoughts.
Thank you, Dawn 🤗
It’s so freeing for me to be able to write about my experiences authentically. I was definitely hesitant publishing this post but I followed my wild heart and feel enriched by your comment ❤️
Yes Katja I love the lettuce story. I agree also in not enabling toxicity, however I do feel in most cases people responsible have been poisoned themselves. The culture is broken and traumatizes in ways that perpetuate that toxicity . Love , kindness, and compassion are possible and can be present without enabling. For an empath though caution first as even these gestures open possible vulnerability. Thanks for expressing gratitude to all the vegetables 🥕 😊
Thank you so much for your comment! Jon, I so appreciate that you are sharing your view here.
I was very hesitant about publishing this post. Especially the part about toxic people. I knew that I would possibly not be understood. Since the post wasn’t specifically about toxic people, I did’t have the space to explain in detail what toxicity means for me. I grew up with a narcissistic father and know from my own experience that love and kindness and compassion are enabling a person with a narcissistic personality disorder. As an empath this was a very difficult step to accept on my healing journey. Crystal clear boundaries are vital around these kinds of toxic people. This is still deeply misunderstood for most people especially those who haven’t made their own personal experiences with these kinds of narcissists.
I agree with you that around most wounded people love and kindness and compassion are possible and can be present. And to me most wounded people don’t have what I would call toxic behavior.
Thanks Katja and I get it. Sometimes the only way to deal with a narcissist is to disengage. Sometimes that requires behavior that is "unkind" . Maybe I would turn that last sentence around ...that most people who have toxic behavior are wounded. I think we are on the same page here. I loved your post
Thank you, Jon ❤️
I value your feedback and I’m looking forward to our next exchange.